It’s been almost four years since I started with my company. You would think by now I would get used to the idea that some people just won’t make it in our field.
I mean, looking back it’s not that shocking really. We quit most of the things we start in our lives. I know I’m guilty!
I quit softball, cheerleading, student council – hell, I quit college 12 hours short of my bachelors degree! The differences are what get me. Quitting softball meant no more games, no more practice, no more team nights. It meant I didn’t have to go to softball camp. I didn’t have to squeal when the scabs on my knees from sliding would crack open (I’m kind of a wuss). Quitting softball meant…well, in my mind, freedom! I could just be your typical run-of-the-mill, sleeps-till-noon teenager. I mean, it’s not like I was going to go to college on a softball scholarship…. or would I have? Who knows! I quit that too!
When I stopped going to school it wasn’t because I wanted to quit. I quit because I realized that they were training me so someone could hire me to build their dreams. At that point I didn’t know what my dreams were, I just knew it wasn’t going to be sitting in some advertising office, working 65 hours a week for MAYBE $65,000 a year. (If I was lucky and got my “experience”– the thing about that – to get into the programs that give you experience, you needed to have experience! I never understood that one…) It wasn’t until I saw the potential of the network marketing industry did I really even learn what it was to dream. After-all, they didn’t teach you about THAT in college!
So – you started a business. If you’re lucky, you started with me! (Sorry for the shameless plug.) Good for you! You’ve taken the first step toward firing your boss.
Let’s fast forward. Your aunt, uncle, mother, brother – for the sake of covering all bases we’ll just say ”everyone” – told you NO. Here’s the good news. If you are fully prepared for everyone you care about to tell you no and it doesn’t bother you then you’re in the right place.
Sadly, for most of us, the reality that the ones we care about most are not going to fully back us is … well… devastating.
Even more sad is that a lot of people quit.
Fear. What will people think? What will they say about me? I already spoken to EVERYONE and EVERYONE said no.
Before I continue on with this thought (which came to me while watching Sherlock Holmes and forced me to miss what I’m sure were crucial details to my understanding of the movie) I want to tell you something. This may be shocking.
AS OF TODAY, ZERO PEOPLE HAVE DIED FROM HEARING THE WORD NO.
Bizarre really. Noone has died? I mean some of those No’s I’ve heard were pretty painful… right? I mean, remember how that one lady at K-Mart who said NO looked at you? Yeah, neither does she. You are the only one dwelling on that NO. The person who gave you that NO already forgot that you exist.
So, let me ask you this. What are you giving up on when you give up on your business?
Yourself. Yep, you’re giving up on yourself.
You literally just looked in the mirror and said, nope. I can’t do it. There is no way that I will ever be able to do what all of those people have done. I know that the company has mapped it out for me, given me a great product with a killer compensation plan and this super awesome support system to go with it… but I can’t do it. I’m not worth that much money a month. I don’t deserve it. Say that in the mirror. I’ll tell you now, you’re going to feel like a fool, I’ll bet my Mercedes on it.
Dreams. Oh yeah… remember those? Those things that you only wish you could have? The feelings you wish you could feel? The trips you wish you could take, the children you wish you could help, the animals that you would save –yeah, all of those? Forget it. Not with your typical 9 to 5. There’s no way. I mean c’mon – you tell me where you can go in corporate America and get a six figure residual income with no education. Where was that again? I’m having a hard time with that one too!
Goals. The day you started your company, you started with a goal in mind. No, it’s not the end of the world if you don’t reach all of you goals, but it’s quite possibly the footpath to a business deadzone if you don’t strive to. Was staying at home with the kids a goal of yours when you started? Well, quit your business and you can bet your babies bottoms that you will be going back to a JOB. That means no nap-time with baby Frank, no walking the dog in the park for lunch, no picnics in the park for brunch! Whatever that goals was, when you quit working your business, you make the conscious decision to give up that goal.
Desires. Remember how excited you were when you first got on board? If your leader is like me then they already told you that you should be out there licking the leather of the car or boat (or whatever) of your hearts biggest desire. Remember when you would sit, look at your upline and think, “there is just no way he/she is making that much money”? If you are like me you heart would ache just thinking about all the beautiful ways you could spend, save, invest that money. You quit? Take that desire and toss it out the window, because there ain’t gonna be no lovin’ for mama tonight!
If only you could hear how I’m saying this as you read it. It could come off in a totally different way than I intend, I’m sure. That’s just my nature – a bit blunt, but always with good intentions, I promise.
What I’m trying to say here is this: You started this for a reason, regardless of when. That doesn’t matter. Today you have the choice to change it. Pack up those dreams, saddle up those desires and pat yourself on the back because I am telling you that YOU CAN DO THIS!
What’s it going to take?
The deep burning need to succeed. You will NOT let you defeat you.
The willingness to learn. The skills you need can be acquired. Leaders are not born, they are made, they are taught, they teach.
Get over yourself. Whatever it is, whatever you think about yourself or why you can’t – get over it. The only thing holding you back is you. Our job is to figure out what about you it is. Is it fear? Fear of rejection? Fear of failure? Rejection is a sexy beast turning you down for a drink at the bar. When that person says, I don’t like your hair, you’re not my type – that stings. That is rejection. Let’s make something else clear. The only way to fail is giving up. Funny how that works isn’t it?
Self development. Yep, it’s required. You are getting paid to become a better person. We already know this business works, it’s you we have to figure out!
PLUG IN. Plug into the conference calls, watch the youtube videos, read the blogs, stay in the know on what is happening in your company and your team. Reach out, reach up, reach over – just REACH. There are hundreds of people in this company who honestly care about you!
Remember; success can never start until responsibility is taken.
It’s not your upline, it’s not the product, it’s not customer service or your computer, it’s you.
Look on the bright side, at least now you know! The next step is taking action and I believe that you have what it takes to do it! Surround yourself with those who breathe life into your dreams. After all – I know you are smart enough to know that you are the only one who can tap into all that potential. You hold the key, and maybe, just mayyybee I just unleashed the beast!
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Your IT Girl,
– Sarah Savidge